not be selfish

Hi all,

most of the time i think about myself and put my convenience over other’s. this is compounded by my nature of treating ppl i dont like so much for watever reason differently (mostly ignore them). people i do like v much, i feel jealous when they make an effort to do something for others. i do have friends an all, but at times i do wonder if i have any real friends who would actually do something for me :(
time i changed and became a better person. do help me sharing ur experiences and i ll try to give back by letting you know what i m doing about it.

I have just come off an anti-depressant after realizing that they are messing me up more than i was to begin with. I thought that by doing laundry or buying booze for my boyfriend I was not being selfish. I only thought about how in the long run it would be beneficial for myself…..him being more loving when drunk for example. I realized I did not appreciate his hardships or do things for him/my friends/my parents. Expecting people to do things for me just because I feel as though I have been ‘nice’ I want to learn to stear clear of this. PLEASE help!

My way of trying to become more saint-like, more like my mom.

i find myself being what i think to be caring and considerate to all that i encounter but all along im just doing what i want and when i want, i hurt those around me by these actions, i want this to stop as i dont want to lose those that are improtant to me. its not a conscious thing that i do it just happens, i try to consider others but it always turns round to me unknowingly doing something thats right for me and not for the person i should be considering. am sorry i babbled along but i hate what i do and need to stop!!!!

I find I worry more about myself for the fact that I look out for myself more. I do things for others only for it to make me feel happy. I have no feelings towards hurting someone in consequence to me doing what’s best for me. I’m looking out for myself but it pushes everyone else away and I don’t want this anymore.

My sister who is one year older than me calls me selfish a lot. I’d like to think I’m not selfish, as I yell at her that I am not but I think I am. I recently looked up selfish in a dictionary although I know what it means. It comfirmed that I am indeed selfish. I try to do things for the best of my concern even though I know I should be doing things for the best of other’s concern. In situations like this I cannot think and automatically take the selfish route. I do what’s best for me. And later I am very sorry I did.