help a friend

like, little help. I mean big help. I’ll wait till the time is right, hopefully none of my friends will get any huge problems though!

the pic is of my friend memo the one i am tryin to help :)

so i have been trying my best to help my new friend cause he is so awesome he totally deserves my time..and to be happy. he says he likes me talking to him and that it helps…i hope it does…he is such a sweetheart its hard for me to see that anyone couldn’t like him :( i guess people are just ignorant. they must think that cause he looks or acts different then what society says is normal that he is weird or something..but he’s not at all…he is really nice, sweet, polite, caring, just freakin awesome. i actually feel that i am the one gaining something from this friendship. i’m supposed to be helping him but he has also helped me. i only met him a few days ago but something inside of me wants him to be happy so bad..idk what it is…when he acts happy…i get ecstatic cause i feel that maybe just maybe i am helping him…MY GOAL…so it’s awesome…i love knowing that i could make a positive difference in someones life…i can only pray it stay that way…

WELL I MET A NEW FRIEND ONLINE YESTERDAY…HE LIVES IN MY AREA AND EVEN WENT TO MY SCHOOL AND IS GONNA GO BACK SOON…THING IS HE IS EMO WHICH IS FINE BUT HE TURNED LIKE THAT CUZ OF PROBLEMS WITH HIS PARENTS…WHO PHYSICALLY ABUSE HIM AND EMOTIONALLY…EVERYONE HAS GIVEN UP ON THIS KID…HE IS VERY SUICIDAL AND I REALLY AM WORRIED ABOUT HIM…I AM TRYING EVERYTHING IN MY POWER TO HELP THIS KID BUT I REALLY DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO MY PARENTS NEVER TREATED ME LIKE HIS DO THEY NEVER TOLD ME TO GO KILL MY SELF OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT SO MY HEART GOES OUT TO HIM…HE ALSO HAD A FRIEND MURDERED A MONTH AGO A DAY BEFORE MY FRIEND WAS SO WE ALSO HAVE THAT KIND OF LOSS IN COMMON . I WISH I KNEW WHAT TO DO BUT I REALLY DON’T KNOW I GUESS I AM JUST GONNA LEND AN EAR AND TRY TO HELP HIM TO THE BEST OF MY ABILITY

Hey, I have been trying to help my girlfriend for a few months now to stop smoking weed. She says that she wants to quit, and im pretty sure that she really meant it. The thing is, the other day I was at her place and she took me outside and was acting a little weird. She kept asking me these “What If..” questions, and eventually she was wondering if she could smoke. I have never smoked, and dont plan on ever doing so. I need some advice on what I should do. She tells me that its because she is really stressed, but its hard to get her to tell me what its all about. I want her to be honest with me about her smoking, even if I am sort of against her doing it. What should i do? Put my foot down with my beliefs, and if she ever did smoke, she would be more likely to lie to me, or to keep trying to get her to open up with me, and let me help her help herself. Maybe you guys think i should do something else??? I could just use some advice, Thanks

SO TODAY THE SAME FRIEND I HAD WANTED TO HELP BEFORE CALLED ME FROM JAIL AND HE TELLS ME HE IS BEING RELEASED AND ASKED ME TO CALL SOMEONE FOR HIM SO HE COULD BE PICKED UP…SO I DID…THE ONLY TIME HE EVEN CALLS ME IS WHEN HE NEEDS SOMETHING OR WANTS SOMETHING…I ACCEPTED THE COLLECT CALL BECAUSE I LOVE HIM …HE IS LIKE MY BROTHER I CANT TURN MY BACK ON HIM…SO A LIL LATER I AM TALKING TO MY MOM ABOUT HOW DAVID CALLED ME AND SHE TELLS ME THAT IT IS LIKE A SLAP IN THE FACE HIM CALLING ME BECAUSE HE ONLY CALLS WHEN HE WANTS SOMETHING…AND SHE ASKED ME WHEN ARE U GONNA LEARN…AND I RESPONDED NEVER CAUSE I CANT TURN MY BACK TO HIM…HE HAS NO ONE ….I MEAN HE HAS PEOPLE BUT IN THE END NONE OF THEM ARE REAL FRIENDS EXCEPT ME AND THIS OTHER GUY…WHICH IS JUST AWESOME FOR HELPING HIM…I STILL FEEL AS IF I NEED TO HELP DAVID MORE IDK HOW…AND IDK WHY I CANT JUST LET IT GO…BUT SOMETHING DRAWS ME TO HIM AND I AM JUST STUCK WANTING TO BE HIS RESCUER OR SOMETHING…I HATE THE FEELING OF BEING USED WHICH I AM CONSTANTLY BUT MY HEART DOESNT ALLOW ME TO GIVE UP OR BE MEAN TO HIM…I JUST WANT TO HELP HIM…I KNOW I NEED TO GIVE THIS TO GOD AND LET HIM TAKE CARE OF IT BUT STILL I FEEL STUCK…I KNOW I HAVE TO DO SOMETHING I AM JUST NOT SURE WHAT YET…IF U GOT ANY IDEAS OR ADVICE I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR CUZ I GOT NOTHING SO FAR…THANK U IF YOUR READING THIS AND U CAN HELP ME…

I HAD TWO FRIENDS THAT I LOVE DEARLY…RECENTLY ONE OF THEM WAS MURDERED…NOW I HAVE THE OTHER FRIEND WHICH DATED THAT ONE THAT WAS MURDERED…HE IS ADDICTED TO DRUGS…SEE I LOVE THIS MAN DEARLY…HE IS LIKE MY BROTHER AND I JUST WANT TO HELP HIM… I HAVE MANY TIMES TRIED TO HELP HIM GET AWAY FROM DRUGS BUT HE ALWAYS GOES BACK..IDK WHAT TO DO…SEE I KNOW U HAVE TO WANT TO CHANGE IF UR GONNA CHANGE…HE SAYS HE DOESNT WANT TO DO DRUGS BUT THEN HE DOES NOTHING TO STOP….I WANT TO HELP HIM..MAYBE NOT WITH QUITING DRUGS CUZ I DONT KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THAT…I DONT DO DRUGS…. NEVER HAVE…BUT I KNOW I WANT TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN HIS LIFE..I WANT TO BE A GOOD FRIEND..IN THE PAST I KINDA ABANDONED HIM BECAUSE HE WOULD TREAT ME BAD CUZ OF THE DRUGS…BUT SINCE MY FRIEND WAS MURDERED I HAVE TRIED TO BE THERE FOR HIM CUZ I KNOW HOW MUCH HE LOVED HER..AND I REALIZED HOW SHORT LIFE REALLY IS AND THAT I WANT HIM IN MINE…SEE I LOVE HIM BUT I DONT KNOW HOW TO HELP HIM…I FEEL LIKE I AM NOT DOING EVERYTHING THAT I COULD..BUT I DONT KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO..I HAVE OFFERED HIM MY FRIENDSHIP…A PLACE TO GO…MONEY…ANYTHING THAT I COULD POSSIBLE GIVE HE KNOWS I WOULD GIVE IT TO HIM..BUT I STILL FEEL LIKE I AM NOT DOING ENOUGH…I AM SCARED THAT IF HE KEEPS DOING WHAT HE IS DOING THAT HE IS GONNA DIE..AND I CANT GO TO HIS FUNERAL…I JUST CANT HANDLE LOOSING HIM…IT HAS BEEN HARD ENOUGH LOOSING MY OTHER FRIEND…..THE THOUGHT OF LOOSING HIM BRINGS TEARS TO MY EYES EVEN THOUGH HE IS FINE RIGHT NOW…CAN ANYBODY HELP ME..IDK WHAT TO DO…I DONT WANT MY FRIEND TO DIE CUZ I LOVE HIM…I FEEL HOPELESS…PLEASE IF U HAVE ANY ADVICE HELP ME…I CANT HANDLE LOOSING HIM TOO…

And not just like I was a “mamacita.” No, I’m the mama because I can’t help but take care of people. I’ve got snacks all the time and it’s really important that my friends not be crazed with hunger. (How is it that all of the friends I have and my husband all get crazy when they are hungry? Some people don’t really even notice, they just start passing out… anyway.) If they need a shoulder to cry on, I’ve got that and tissues to go with it. I’m always up for hugs. I’ve been called aggressively cuddly. I just love making people feel good.

JoJo called this afternoon to say the Powers that Be have approved the business plan! They said it was “brilliantly written” no less. They’re cutting her the cheque by the end of the month.

This makes me feel so, so, so good. So good. Wow.

I’ve been trying to help JoJo get the plan for her photography business finished and approved (by the same program I had my plan approved for in July).

Time ran so tight and she wasn’t ready at all – I spent at least 30 hours in the last week busting ass writing (and re-writing) it, and when we sent it in (with only 15 minutes to spare before the deadline), we both felt really good about it. More time would have been lovely, but we made do. I even managed to whip up a quick logo and a collage of her photos.

Now we wait to see if it’s approved. Hopefully we’ll hear back in the next week or so. Fingers crossed.

I feel so bad for THE lil one right now… Really wish I could give her a hug… Such an amazing girl deserves to have someone treat her like the princess she is… It’s such a sad thing but it happens to all of us at one time or another… I’m thinking of you now Jess, please don’t loose your faith in love…