Create a circle of true, close friends

I move a lot. I’ve moved to several different states since college. Generally it’s random. Now I’m trying to stay in one place for a while and meet people I like and can hang out with on a regular basis. Why is that so difficult?

Ah, high school.

I have a group of really good friends now, hopefully it’ll last.

But it seems to already be falling apart.

I did it.

kerry, ashley, jackie, and mary mean the world to me. they have always been there and will always be there. we don’t fight, we just have a good time whether it be just talking, eating, surprising, or drinking, any day with them is the best!

I want to make a circle with my three best friends, but I dont know if I’m the best friend of two of my three best friends. If you got that. All three do loads of sport and I dont, so they spend more time together, but I still want to be best friends with them. Is that possible?

If you have many close friends , each rightly expects you to give time , care and attention .This prompts me to think that close friends can not be many .Even if i have them , i will not be able to meet their expectations .This is a strange phenomena i have experienced .

Not to disregard or be totally passive about it, but trying to force something like this simply does not work. For me good friends have been few and far between, maybe one every five years or so, and they stick around for a few months or a year or so before moving on due to personal circumstances or whatever. In the in-between time I’ve been largely alone aside from relatives and casual acquaintances I associate with due to mutual obligations (work, etc). Having good friends isn’t necessary for me to function; I’m simply wanting of it. If it’s something that’s meant to happen in the future, then it will. If not, I’ll be no worse off than now, and I’m not exactly bad off to begin with. Off the list.

Thanks for the cheers BTW :)

To make room for more specific goals.

And it was nice to see them, but I felt out of practice socially, like I was interrupting too much, talking too loud, and making jokes that seemed to fall flat. Sigh. I guess I need more practice.

My husband has to work New Year’s Day at 4am, so he’ll be going to bed at 9pm on New Year’s Eve. I emailed one of my friends to see if she’d like to dress up and go dancing.

I’m trying.

Difficult but not impossible.