stop reading into things

don’t think people are out to get you

I still over-analyze… I guess it’s gotten better since before, because I’m not always worried about what people are thinking. I don’t always jump to the conclusion that people are thinking bad things about me… now it’s quite the opposite. I have a crush on someone, I know that it’s not going to go anywhere, but I can’t help but notice all of the little things that seem to suggest that it might in the future. I have to stop reading into all those things because it’s going to drive me crazy.

It is my nature. I cannot avoid it. Even if I tell myself to stop, it is always sitting in the back on my mind, taunting me.

The thing is, I am almost ALWAYS right. Almost every time I analyze something and come to a conclusion the outcome is what I suspected.

It’s a curse, really. I am able to tell what people are thinking of me, what people talk about me behind my back. No dirty look or odd word goes by noticed by me. I will catch it and I will find out what your thinking.

I think I’ll always kinda struggle with this. But I have noticed a difference lately. I haven’t been worrying as much as I usually do. I realized that the strategy I’m using is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. Every time I notice that I’m worrying or reading too much into something I’ll catch myself. I realize that I’m often jumping to conclusions. If I just take a moment and consider all the other possibilities, instead of automatically assuming the worst, then it relaxes me a bit.
I’d recommend that strategy to everyone who struggles with this. It’s a really popular method right now in Psychology and they often have group sessions available at campuses or through various organizations. I’m sure they could explain it better than I have.
Like I said, I think I’ll always do this to a certain extent but I think I can manage it now :)

it kinda goes together with ‘worry less.’ I’m not quite sure how I’m going to do this, does anyone have a suggestion?

I agree with Joshua333, in that reading into things is an intrinsic part of who I am. But I do realize I do it way too much. I think I need to stop when it comes to understanding other people’s actions. If my girlfriend is all quiet I automatically assume that it’s something that I did… when really she’s just having a bad day. I think I’ve gotten much better when it comes to this. In highschool I was waaay too paranoid about what people thought of me. At least now I just worry about what one person thinks of me?

ok i know that i do this way too much, but it doesnt really seem like something that can be avoided. reading into things is waht i do best. im a sagitarius you see(actually im an ophiucus but thats another story) and we have a tendancy to immerse ourselves in a given situation and not come up for air until the whole bag of snakes has been laid out straight. so in conclusion i will try and stop reading into things to an insane and ultimatly unhealthy degree, but to stop the unravelling of my universe would be tragic to say the least.

geez, if this isn’t telling of my latent paranoia..

What is it about me and reading into things…. Someone male and reasonably attractive starts talking to you… you think you like them and then OBSESS and ANALYSE every little thing they say to you to work out if they like you too… JUST ASK THEM!!

although i’m not brave enough! :0) Maybe one day i will be!

... It’s more like routine now. I know not to take something seriously, but I will anyway because I just ‘have’ to react… Besides bastards like to push buttons…