be a good conversationalist

I’m not really a shy person, but in a way I am….There is certain people I can’t be myself around, and I can’t talk to them because I guess I feel inferior, it really sucks, and no matter what I do I can’t change it. Ecspecially when I like a guy and I can’t talk to him without saying something stupid because I am too nervous, that’s how I am with one of my loves. So I need pointers to help me be better at talking to people!! HELP ME PLEASE!!!

Chances are if you go to college or high school they offer a course in public speaking. I highly recommend this course to anyone who wishes to become a better conversationalist or just more confident in general.

I am a shy/quiet person myself but I am forcing myself to take this class and overcoming my fears.

Public speaking is the number one fear for many people. Overcoming any fear will add to your confidence level and this is one of the few fears that offers a class to overcome it.

i feel like ive honestly improved so much with this. i find myself in conversations and im actually asking the questions and listening alot more than i used to and not just focusing on myself. so im going to mark this as done..but still make a conscious effort every time im engaging in conversation.

I’ve been wanting to become a better conversationalist for a few weeks, but never really put an effort to improving my conversational skills. So today i thought i should do something about it and i did a bit of research and i found this website:

http://www.matilijapress.com/articles/10stepstoconversation.htm

Its a good resource for those wanting to improve conversation skills.

After reading that article i’m thinking about joining a “toastmaster club” to improve my speaking skills in general.

this kind of goes along with my newly added goal on not gossiping..

gossiping = being a bad conversationalist.

ive been realizing through conversations with certain people things that i would like to avoid while conversing with others.

that is, talking about oneself incessantly..i mean..i know its easy to do..and i could talk about myself alot if i wanted to..its a subject we are very familiar with..but really..ive been getting so bored with people that only talk about themselves. at that point i just want to say..just write a darn autobiography or something.

i’ve realized a huge part of being a good conversationalist is being an even better listener.

I feel that I’m quite proficient in conversing with others. There is, of course, always room for improvement, so I’m deciding to mark down that I want to do this again, in case I have any conversational breakthroughs and need to share.

hmmm….over the past few years….i guess my relationships with friends has really deteriorated. its not that they don’t like me, its that….when im around them, i usually don’t have anything to say to them, i mean, i just don’t find anything to say, and it just results in an awkward silence. since then, i hardly get out much during the holidays, and i hardly talk to them over the phone or internet. i haven’t been invited to any birthdays or social events.

i guess joining a supportive website such as this is the first step to improving my social life.

a very curious thing has been occuring… I’ve been so chatty lately. I’m talking for ages to complete strangers.. very very strange, Im not that type of person….

I put it down to not having regular contact with people anymore since I’m finished uni and I usually work alone in the store….

but, that being said, being chatty is not being a good conversationalist. but it is a start. overcoming my fears and actually talking to people is a big thing in my books.