accept that not everyone has to like me

How I did it: I used to live my life according to what other people thought of me and how other people made me feel.  I felt that I had to impress the world on a daily basis and for some reason I did not think that being myself was good enough.  I would hide behind a mask and nothing super different from who I really am, I would just hold back.  I wouldn't dance because I was scared of what people you think of me.  I wouldn't tell a guy how I really felt about him even though I knew that I deserved better because I was scared that if I let him out of my life I wouldn't find someone else.  I was so wrapped up in how other people made me feel better about myself.  I couldn't take it anymore.  It took a long time and a lot of self-love and self-awareness to get to where I am today.  It is a beautiful place to be.  I honestly do not care whether you or anyone else likes me.  I know that I like me and that is all that matters.  In fact, I love myself.  It's great.  I am aware of my assets and defects.  I am aware of what I am good at and what I need to improve upon.  I know what I am worth and the people that I deserve to have in my life.  I no longer change how I feel according to how someone else feels.  I am happy within.  I only hope that you can too.

Lessons & tips: Thursday nights I have mix match day where I look ridiculous and not match what so ever.  It helps me to accept how other people look at me.  They are just clothes but it is amazing the judgments people can make about who a person is based on their possessions.  It's a great activity that I look forward to every week.  I go get coffee and eat out while looking pretty ridiculous!

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Jan 14, 2009, 03:12PM PST | 1 comment | 2 cheers