tell my parents about my boyfriend

Okay so he’s not my boyfriend, I suppose we’re sort of seeing each other, but its still scary. I like him alot, and I hope he’s gonna stay around, but he turned 23 a week or so ago, and im not 18 until the end of August. I really wanna tell me parents, I tell them everything and I hate lying, plus I think he’s really special and I want to share this with them. I know they’d love him, and I know they would get over it soon, im just afraid of the initial blowup. Especially since I met him off the internet, and they’re gonna be annoyed. Help!

I have been going out with my beloved boyfriend for almost 10months now and i still haven’t told my parents…
my parents are stricter than typical Chinese parents and have been very over protective since i was a child
once i hit university i began discovering how fun it was to socialise, have loads of mates especially guy ones and go out late clubbing etc
my parents really didnt like this change in me and constantly lectured me on how bad i’ve become, i was stuck in between pleasing them, pleasing my friends and finding my own balance for almost 2 years
its the final year of uni and i’ve finally found the one person i’ve been searching for my whole life, i’ve gone from being a young naive girl who has never dated in her teenage years to being a in a serious and loving relationship… and my parents still have no clue what is going on
although they have asked me many a times – have i got a boyfriend, and they have always been suspicious, leading to them snooping around, and asking other people about me.
i used to hate that, and guard my secrets ever more fiercely… because once they know, there is no going back.
They will poke their noses into my business, nag me, ask too many questions about him, i knew that was the path i did not want to take until it really had to come to it
My boyfriend’s parents met me when we were 3months in, and i had always felt bad that he let his parents know but i hadn’t yet.
Although he’s really understanding and is always telling me to take my time.
But as of late.. because of the love i have for my boyfriend and my urge to just share the happiness with everyone close to me… i want to tell my parents and i think i will do it at the very next oppurtunity… which may be tomorrow…
i will be very nervous as this is my biggest kept secret of my life about to be split with no going back… i just hope this is the right decision…

Yay me I did it!

It didn’t go as badly as I thought it would.
It actually went rather well.
I have great parents.
I love them.

I told step mum (Chris) and my dad about Ben on Saturday. Chris didn’t have a problem with it. She’s happy for me and knew I wouldn’t date anyone my own age anyway. Dad didn’t say anything. I don’t really know him well enough to know if that means he has an opinion on it or not. Chris said not to worry because if he had a problem with it he’d say say something. I don’t really mind, he’s going to stay out of it, he loves me still and I’m not lying to him. I’d love to know he’s happy for me and supporting me but for now its enough.

The next thing is mum. It feels really wrong having told dad before I told mum, even if I’ve never been close to mum I’ve been closer to her than dad. But I do think she’ll have more of a problem. She has a problem with some aspects dating even if they’re our own age. Also, I think I’ve been spending too much time with him for mums liking. I don’t like the idea of telling her and not being able to see him Saturday nights any more. Regardless of if i tell her or not I’ll have to continue lying to her and hiding things, and it really eats me up. I hate lying to people I love. I suppose I hate lying in general.

I just recently got a boyfriend. His name is Ben and I really like him a lot.
I always said I didn’t want to be one of those daughters who keeps her boyfriends secret from her parents, no matter how embarrassing I think they’d be about it (which my mum will be), but this is a different story.

The reason I’m so worried about telling them is because of the age difference. There is 7 years between us, I’m 16 and he is 23. It really doesn’t make a difference to us and as far as I know its still legal, but it doesn’t stop people from having negative opinions of it. I don’t know how my parents will feel about their baby girl dating a 23 year old. I imagine it will be bad.

But everyone assures me its best if I tell them, and as soon as possible. Its only been a week or two and already I’m feeling the pressure to tell them.
I’ve had to lie to my mum, which really makes me feel horrible. I hate lying. But other than that they have no real reason not to trust me.

I love my parents and I don’t want to argue with them. I really want them to like Ben, and not just think hes some cradle-snatching creep. I trust him and he really likes me. I know he wouldn’t risk the crap he’ll get from this unless he liked me a lot. Anyone who knows both of us, and either of us well trusts us and are nothing but happy for us.

I’m going to my dads house this weekend and I think I’m going to tell my step mum. She’s amazing and very understanding. She’ll know what dad will say and the best way to tell him.