be nicer to my boyfriend

Does anyone know a way to balance being nice to your boyfriend with getting him to do his share of the housework?

My boyfriend seems to think that if he cooks and does the washing up once then that gets him off the hook for the next week or so! Meanwhile my life is getting sucked away into cooking, cleaning, shopping…. I feel really resentful about this, because it makes me think he doesn’t value my time as highly as he values his time.

I have realized that letting go of the resentments help enormously!! I love him <3

I’m a bit too jumpy.

Getting angry too quickly.

Raising my voice too much.

And that bothers him. I should pay more atention on that

I made him a sweet powerpoint presentation and he loved it… He was happy, I was happy… And I’m working on it. Thats what matters :)

But he cares. And he tries.

So he deserves it from me to try a little too.

I’m sure he will return it…

He called me at work 4 times today and I didnt get frusterated and I let him finish saying what he wanted each time. I took me alot to do this!!

I don’t consciously do it but I push him to see how far I can go till he snaps. He is surprisingly tolerant. I love him so much and think he’ll leave anyway so I cause problems between us when actually he’s the best thing thats happenned to me for a long long time. I need to except happiness when it comes my way and stop trying to pre-empt disaster.

we had a good night. very calm.

things are so terrible right now.
worst night ever. we fought all night. till 2 am.
im not happy in this relationship.
i dont know why he wants to be with me. im such a bitch to him.
hes not the reason im not happy. its all the things I am doing wrong. i cant be happy with him, if im not happy at all.
he thinks its like…his responsibility to make me happy. its not. im supposed to BE happy. i dont know how to make this happen but until it does im just going to become more and more distant. i dont want that to happen. i love him, and im so sad.

oh man. i said some frikkin hateful things to him last night. i feel terrible..he said them right back but that doesnt make it okay.
i was upset, because he tells all his friends that im too hot for him. what the hell is that about? oh i was livid.
if he thinks im out of his league, whos to say he wont freak out, and not want to marry me? i guess i was just being paranoid and scared like always, but it just sucks. =[