work out who i am

i stumbled upon a new philosophy a few days ago, after thinking back to a conversation with an old friend. i never seem able to define who i am because it feels as though there are so many different aspects to myself; but, isn’t that in itself a definition? the self isn’t about individual facets of a personality, or attitudes or beliefs or whatever- the self is all of these facets together, making a whole. i am everything that there is about myself, not just what i am- or, rather, am not- a majority of the time.

this is a question that has been bothering me since i was a kid. Who am i ? I am 23 and I feel like a bland shell of a person, i feel like i dont have an identity, i dont know what to do i dont know how to work out who i am or where to find the confidence to be who i want to be.