build my self confidence

It’s a bird! It’s a plane! NO! It’s Xellora’s confidence! Well, at least how high I want it to be. I’ve always had problems with confidence since childhood… I never had any problems making friends, once I found something that connected us we were friends, but I am always self conscious about everything and anything and as I grow older, and pursue my career I realize that I need to get over my social anxiety and become more confident. I will take you through this step by step process and maybe you can boost your confidence along with me!

most definitely i will try and build my self confidence…ha, i’ve been working on this the 4 years i’ve been in high school and still: nothing. where do i start?

help me, i probably need a bit of self confidence if i want to get into the colleges that i do.

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self confidence will definitely improve many aspects of my life. but to have self-confidence i need to gain other things…like knowledge and skills…so i can be proud of myself and be confident

okay , I’m only 14 years old, and I hate going to school because of this nonconfidence I have. Its when I go to a new school and for this whole school year I’ve just let myself be the girl in the side with the others and when I was over there I was still alone ‘cause we really didn’t get along. I just want my summer vacation to be fun, adventures, and meeting people besides my family members this year. If I can get over being the loner and not meeting people and making new friends, from the ones I already have ( I’m not being cruel to my old friends, I just want to meet new people step out of my box) I want to be confidence and have the guts enough to talk to people.

I have had almost no confindence since I was young. When I moved to a new town in second grade, being the shy kid never helped. I never had many friends, and I don’t think many people cared to get to know me. I have epidermolysis, which is a rare skin condition which leaves my sensitive skin scarred all over my body (nothing major, it just looks like little scratches which have all turned into raised scars covering my arms, legs, stomach, back, and hands). A lot of people I guess may have been scared of that and no one really tried talking to me. Being shy, I stuck to one or two friends throughout middle school, and in high school there wasn’t much improvement. Dealing with a bad relationship hasn’t gotten me very far either. Hopefully this will turn around soon.

I have the strangest thing, ok I have a strangest thing, ok im not scared around the opposite sex and not afraid of rejection thats all cool god knows ive been rejected before. Im not afraid to inroduce myself, infact im considerd outgoing by 99.9% of people I know and im described as have pretty good self confidence but the thing is when I meet high level business people my confidence drops like a ton of bricks out of the empire state building. what the heck? but only around certain ones like I talked with the vice president of the inland northwest bank without trouble, and so and so forth but around certain ones I get scared even though there really nice.

Two years ago I went through a bad break up. I was getting my confidence back this spring and the woman I was dating wanted me to move in with her and move cross country. She said she loved me, and then changed her mind. I freaked out about it. I had already gotten interviews in the new state and put things in motion based on what she said. Now I am in pieces but walking around with it all taped together and she thinks I am a freak and never wants to talk to me. With self confidence, I’d see early on when someone is faking it.

It’s called SELF confidence. not “what other people think of me”. you will never truely know what someone thinks of you, unless you’re a telepath. It is absurd to make assumptions about how someone feels about you (even if they tell you how they feel about you). Just learn who you are, what you are capable of, and embrace your existence.

i’m at the point where i just really don’t give a hoot about what anyone thinks of me. i like me, and my friends like me. so what next? there is that little part of me that wished that one boy would like me. but i think that’s a little absurd. i had a revelation last night about that very topic anyhow, so i’m not going to even bother with those thoughts. i think i’m going to consider this one complete!