make real friends

to someone who needs someone to talk to
to someone who needs a hug
to someone who needs a shoulder to cry on
to someone who needs a buddy to go to the gym with
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all i ask in return is that someone does the same for me…

Real FRIENDS are difficult to find.. and if you’re lucky and have one don’t let him/her go..!

I can say that I’m a really sociable person… and that I have “many friends around”.. but if I realize they are not real ones.. I know I can trust few ppl.. but I wish I could consider one single person as a REAL REAL friend of mine.. maybe I haven’t found a real one yet.. but I hope I’ll meet him/her soon.. =)

Yes, I was right about this guy. I have let him go as he isn’t the friend I thought he was. I feel better for confronting him rather than putting up with less or just letting things fizzle out.

I think I’m right about my new male friend. I don’t see why we can’t just be friends, without him playing the kind of stupid games that men usually play when they are romantically involved. He is making it so complicated, and it shouldn’t be! I haven’t decided whether or not to just let it fizzle out, or to discuss it with him. I guess the grown up thing would be to talk to him about it, but to be honest, he is really annoying me right now! I am not going to let this small set back put me off, I remain open to all opportunities for meeting new people, making new friends, keeping them and nurturing the friendships I already have.

I made a very tentative connection with a guy about three weeks ago. We met on an internet dating site. It’s early days yet, and we’re still finding out if we are compatible or not. I hope we can make it work because he’s the first smart, sophisticated, decent man I’ve met in a very long time, and he makes me laugh out loud, which is always high on my list! We met up in the flesh after about a week of chatting,unfortunately, he felt the need to spell it out for me, albeit in a very subtle way, that he isn’t romantically interested in me. It disappointed me and insulted my intelligence a little, not because he appears to be only interested in a platonic relationship, but because he had to tell me, when it was already obvious to me. At the risk of sounding sexist, he is now doing “the guy thing” and giving me very mixed messages. I guess his ego demands that he find out how I feel about him? I suspect that he is playing games with me. However, I am going to give him the benefit of the doubt for a bit longer, and hope that we can settle into a lasting, relaxed friendship.

With the exception of my boyfriend and best friend, and maybe two friends at school, I don’t think any of my friends are very genuine. I should focus more on the fact that I do have a few people around me who are good friends, but right now its summer, and they are all about two hours away from me. When school starts back up, at least I’ll have my boyfriend and friends from school around. And distance doesn’t really change anything with my best friend. :]

I swear to god there must be something wrong with me. With the exception of a select few, all my friends are bitches and assholes who change with the wind. We just argue all the time and its ridiculous they’re so clicky. I mean come on, why is it so hard just for us all to hang out. No one can take any criticism and no matter what I say its always wrong. god

I am! i want one friend..just one .. who doesn’t suck ass. that’d be great. a trustworthy person ..is there one left ?

I’ve always found myself in parasitic, one-sided “friendships” in which I play the role of personal counselor. Counseling is my career path, but I’d much rather save the counseling for my clients. I’m happy to help my friends in any way I can, but I don’t feel that complete dependency makes for healthy relationships.

And what happens when the “counselor” needs help?

In my experience, my so-called “friends” become angry that their perpetually cheerful “helper” has problems of her own, and is unable to tend to theirs. That, or they jump at the chance to gloat: finally, they are happy and their friend is not!

At its core, I suppose this goal is less about finding real friends (I am fortunate to have a few) and more about eliminating the bad ones. There are a few friendships in particular that I know I need to end, but I am having a hard time doing so. Maybe by keeping a journal of my progress, I can look back and realize that such relationships aren’t worth the effort.

I suppose it isn’t so hard in theory, but relationships (even bad ones) are habits. Why else would people stay with those who hurt them, be it physically or emotionally?

I hope I can take some steps in the right direction. Writing it down, at least, is a start.

It’s one thing to have acquaintances and having a friendship. It’s all about quality NOT quantity, I think some people forget that. We need to start being REAL, straight forward, become listeners, treat each other fair, respect one another. A friendship is NOT a job. You take it or you leave it, but don’t lead people on. This goes for everyone , especially myself. Since I’m not so good at making friends, but I will make this a goal! I want at least ONE good/amazing/best/inspiring/helpful/life-changing friend and I know that it takes two to make this happen.